So here we are--Day 7 of Getting Unstuck.
Today I want to talk about how new conversations can help move us forward.
Previously, we've talked about how experiments, new questions and new connections can bring different perspectives and new energy to our lives. Another way to get unstuck is to start having different conversations.
Human beings are wired for conversations. Not only do we learn from what other people say to us, we also learn about ourselves through what we say to them. As we discuss our experiences, the ways we're thinking of moving forward, etc., we start to construct for ourselves a new identity through the process of conversation. We find ourselves articulating beliefs or ideas that we hadn't previously put into words, but that give us new ideas for movement.
To get unstuck, not only do we have to ask new questions and meet new people, we also need to start having new conversations.
Conversations can be new because we are talking to new people. They can also be new because we are engaging with people we already know, but asking different questions.
One of the best ways for us to renew conversations is to reveal new aspects of ourselves to people know and trust. By making ourselves more vulnerable and taking the chance on showing them some of the questions we are asking and the feelings we are having, this can often open up new possibilities.
Often, this is a good place to test some of the assumptions we may be making about our situations or our futures. Maybe we think that the people we are talking to expect certain things of us. A new conversation might be to test these assumptions, to say "I'm realizing that I believe you expect XYZ of me and I want to see if that's true or not?"
There are many ways for us to have new conversations. The bigger point is for us to start having them.
1. Do one final Transition Image in the Image Center. Any new insights or ideas? How has it evolved over these past several days? What does this tell you?
2. Based on all your work this week, what new conversations do you need to be having? With whom do you want to have them? Come up with a few new conversations you could try. If possible, have them, then write in your journal about what happened and how you're feeling about it.
3. In preparation for tomorrow's final live session, go through all the work you've done this week and reflect on it. Write about these questions in your journal:
- How are you feeling now?
- What new insights or learnings have developed for you over this past week?
- What questions are still unanswered for you?
- What next steps do you feel energized to take? Don't pick things you feel you "should" do or "have" to do. Find things that you look forward to doing.
4. Go to your nurturing list and do something good for yourself.